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The Ties That Bind

For many kinky people, bondage is a huge part of their interaction with their fetish partner. It can bring a sense of joy to both partners in the form of aesthetic, physical, and erotic pleasure. Though bondage can be a relatively dangerous activity, many folks find the appeal is the danger.  To that end, being incapable of escaping bindings can produce a sense of satisfaction in both the bottom and the Top. It’s interesting to see the varied reasons many people give for engaging in bondage, and mine aren’t too terribly far from theirs.

Tops often engage in bondage for a number of reasons. These include being able to control their partner’s actions, having free accessibility to their erogenous zones, or even simply having power. Too often we face the daily stress of being at the whim of the collective—that is to say we don’t have complete control over the things that happen through the course of our lives. Being a Top (or Master, Mistress, etc.) can give us that sense of control that we crave during our regular functioning. It can improve our confidence and make us feel whole as it offers us the opportunity to call the shots. I’ve known many Tops who said their determination to complete projects at work increased after engaging with their bottoms.

Letting Go – the Joy of Submission

For bottoms, being in a position of vulnerability is what drives them. When we’re in powerful positions outside of the BDSM world, we tend to want to lose control. Being bound offers us the ability to experience our surroundings more perceptively. We’re forced to feel the hand between our legs, to focus on the sensitive areas that are being stimulated, and to be at the whim of our Tops. This experience is what makes us bottoms. It makes us want more because being vulnerable is a thrill.

One of the things I love about bondage is how open-ended the activity can be. It doesn’t always necessarily involve sexual stimulation. When it’s used aesthetically, it can be for fetish photography where the bottom is artfully placed in a position of subservience. They might be decorated with rope, chains, tape, or other straps made as restraints. They could have their legs spread by a spreader bar or even be bound up like a pig being prepared for slaughter. However the bottom loves to be handled, it can end up being a true work of art.

On the erotic side, being bound is visually and physically pleasing. There’s nothing more enticing than seeing my bottom strapped to the bed. It’s physically arousing for them as much as it is for me, so we both benefit from this activity. Being able to position their bottom in the air for a spanking without worrying about them running away is exhilarating. Having their legs spread with their genitals exposed for fondling is beyond satisfying. I simply can’t get enough of it. I’ve noticed in these instances that the arousal begins visually for me. Seeing them powerless instantly awakens my dominant side and I begin to fill the role almost immediately.

One of my favorite part of bondage includes the physical stimulation. The simple sensation of feeling restrained offers me a pleasure inexplicable. My subs have told me many times how the sensation drives them forward, how having something to pull on increases their pleasure. Some of them prefer rope while others prefer leather—the material doesn’t matter to me as long as I’m able to tie them up with it. Though I’m typically a Top, I do enjoy switching positions every so often and allowing my sub to put me in a powerless position. Rope has always been my favorite for this switch because of how lovely the silk rope feels on my skin. It makes me feel beautiful in ways that most clothes can’t which is the biggest appeal for me.

Bondage for Punishment

Though I tend to use bondage for pleasure, I also like to use bondage for punishment. A bratty sub might find themselves cuffed to the toilet in the bathroom. “You’re filthy,” I’ll say to them. “So, you might as well be hooked to something filthy.” I’ll leave them there for twenty minutes, check on them intermittently, and then take them out whenever I feel that they have learned their lesson. Many times, I’ll bind them like a hog and leave them in the living room for others to see their pain and shame at disobeying their Top. It brings me joy to see them break—and I’m more than positive it makes them feel much the same.

From physical joy to aesthetic thrill, bondage has a place in every kinky heart. It’s wide range of uses continues to inspire us during our scenes and increasingly provides satisfaction on all levels. Both Tops and bottoms alike who love bondage can attest to the amazing ways they have been freed from their own bonds, whether that be work or personal. However you enjoy bondage, it’s clear that it is one of the staples in the BDSM community. After all, where would BDSM be without the B?

 

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